10 Things to Love about Having a Disability - National Disability Awareness Month

It’s National Disability Awareness Month and here’s the top 10 things to love about having disability (at least mine):

1.      I love that I’m so memorable; you never forget the handicap gal you met at a party.

2.      I love that my shoes with a custom disability walking lift cost me twice what your designer pumps cost and they’re still butt ugly!

3.      I love that the first question people ask me is, “what happened to your leg?” The conversation then ends, and they walk away after I answer.

4.      I love that my dates want to just “be friends” after seeing my disabled walk.

5.      I love that you treat me like I’m normal until I get up and walk in front of you; then your jaw then drops to the floor when you realize I’m disabled and you avoid looking me in the eyes again.

6.      I love that my resume has to “look good enough” that you forget any preconceptions you because of my disability as you watch me limp out of your office.

7.      I love that with my handicap it takes me four times as long as others without a disability to accomplish basics tasks, like cleaning the house, folding laundry, or walking to my car.

8.      I love that people ask if I can have sex with my handicap, and when I answer, “yes,” they have that stupid look of disbelief on their face as their lips whisper, “how?”

9.      I love that despite what I’ve endured to rise above my disability and get to where I am—a successful, professional, with a blessed life (and a disability), that I can be a real vindictive bitch and wish that tomorrow you wake to the nightmare of “walking in my shoes”; an experience that can be simulated by walking all day in public with only one shoe that has a three-inch sole, and an arm that can’t extend more than a foot from my body. For that is the only way I know to help you understand what it feels like to live with my disability and be treated like you’re disabled—if only for one day.

10. I love that in the spirit of National Disability Awareness Month, I can share my innermost fears and disappointments in hopes that it will inspire a future of inclusion for all. Perhaps that way others don’t have to endure the decades of discrimination I faced because of a disability.

AUTHOR’S NOTE: If any of these ‘loves’ leave you with a sense of sorrow, shame, or embarrassment, then my job as an author is done; may you be the strongest advocate for those with a disability in the future as possible.  On the other hand, if you have a disability and felt inspiration or a heavy heart by this post, I invite you to ‘get in conversation’ with your personal support group and communicate your ‘top ten’; by doing so you are developing a new ‘muscle’ which I refer to as empowerment—which  will serve to pull you in a direction that you want your life to take and help your support team understand your struggles a tad more in order to help you get there.


Ed Kmetz

Date 10/28/2020

OK, call me crazy, but I never saw you (still don't see you) as a "person with a disability." Only as Vicki... then Victoria... and all the "stuff" that makes you, you! The whole disability thing blows itself away in about 2 seconds, which is as long as it takes for anyone to realize how freaking sharp and cool you are.

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